After fifty dates I revealed my identity at the Artist’s Identity Symposium at Birkbeck, University of London. This vlog is the ten minute talk I presented at the symposium, summing up the motivations and thinking behind the Fifty Dates of Grey.
Author: The Unconventional Woman
Date #50, When in Rome
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman decides to shy away from romance on her final date by dating a visitor from out of town.
The Post First Impressions Vlog
After finding the language barrier a bit tedious it seems like she is warming up to him….but is it enough after swimming in ice water?
The Post Date Denouement
The Unconventional Woman seems super happy her experiment is over..even if she didn’t get the results that she hoped for.
Date #49, Activists can be Jerks too
The Predate Vlog
Press #1 for a good conversation, #2 for an adventure, #3 for silence in a beautiful spot….Safety not guaranteed…
The Postdate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman is nobody’s nurse maid..no matter how they package themselves
Date #48, Prince Charming is a Physicist
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The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman speculates on her sapiosexual tendencies, but she also believes artists and scientists just have a lot in common.
The Post First Impressions Vlog
The Unconventional Woman is impressed to find out how well rounded the physicist is…and trying to escalate to a second date…
The Post Date Denouement
The Unconventional Woman is disappointed when the physicist is busy on Sunday…she speculates that he probably gets a lot of attention from the ladies…
Date #47, “All Women are Beautiful!”
The Predate Vlog
When men say ‘all women are beautiful’ on a dating profile, what are they really trying to say? The Unconventional Woman unexpectedly gets into a productive conversation by challenging someone.
The Post First Impressions Vlog
While it’s obvious she brought this upon her self with her previous strategy of engagement, the Unconventional Woman feels exhausted by the date in which she expected to provide the intellectual entertainment.
The Post Date Conclusion
The failure of a date? 1 part lack of engagement, 2 parts precarity. At least we can agree about culture clash…
Date #46, The Icelandic Novelist
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman schedules a walk by the lake with a man who has an open ended and inviting Profile. Could meeting this more mature man be the key to her hopes for settling down and belonging?
The Post First Impressions Vlog
The Unconventional seems pleased to find out that her walking companion is planning to leave for a summer in the Pyrenees
Date #45, 3rd Date with the Transatlantic Italian
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman is in a rush trying to create a romantic dinner for the Transatlantic Italian…she hopes that if she prepares well enough everything will go smoothly.
The Post Date Denouement
The Unconventional Woman decides that although he seemed to different from guys she had met before, there’s nothing unique about the gender script that he’s following.
Date #43, The Surrealist
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman has a date with a cautious Canadian who shares her occupational aspirations.
The Post Date Vlog
Date #42, Third Date with the Media Man
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional woman is going on her third date with the Media Man in four months. She wonders if there is something Germanic about this hyper distanced way of dating.
The Mid-date Update
In midst of erudite conversation about restaurant franchises, the Unconventional woman finds out the Media Man is going to Japan for three weeks. She doubts their elegant dinners will ever lead anywhere at this rate…
The Post-Date Conclusion
The Media Man makes the Unconventional Woman feel confused and uncomfortable as he tells her that “This isn’t working out…I can’t even articulate how this isn’t working out…” She’s thinking, well, there’s a helluva lot you’re doing wrong.
Date #39, The Texan Berliner
The Predate Vlog
The Unconventional Woman has a first date with a guy from Austin, Texas. She is wondering how far their geographic similarities will get them.
The Post First Impressions Vlog
The Texan: I’m the black sheep of my family.
The Unconventional Woman: Maybe Berlin is a city of black sheep.
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The Texan: I can see how your research is fascinating, but maybe it’s holding you back.
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The Texan: I always felt that I was awkward type…I’m never able to articulate how I feel at the right moment.
The Unconventional Woman: I’m the awkward type as well..but I’ve realized now that there are two types of awkward. There are those who don’t feel comfortable articulating themselves, but I’m the type who is always open about how I feel in the moment, and fears they will be rejected for their honesty afterwards.
The Post Date Denouement
The Unconventional talks to the Texan about gaining enough credibility to belong to social structures in Berlin…He believes it will be a long and difficult task.
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